Men, you want to treat women better? Here’s a list to start with

Over the last week, theres been a lot of talk about how women are treated in the workplace and elsewhere. TV writer Nicole Silverberg argues that if men want to step up, they can

Hey men, what are you planning to do better? Because you need to do better. Here are ideas on how you should treat women better.

  • Talk to your friend who is kind of a creep at work.
  • Dont talk over women.
  • If you are asked to be on a panel/team and see that its all men, say something. Maybe even refuse the spot!
  • When you see another guy talk over a woman, say: Hey, she was saying something.
  • Learn to read a fucking room.
  • Dont call women crazy in a professional setting.
  • Dont use your feminism as a way to get women to trust you. Show us in your day-to-day life, not in your self-congratulatory social media.
  • Dont touch women you dont know, and honestly, ask yourself why you feel the need to touch women in general.
  • Do you feel that any woman on earth owes you something? She doesnt. Even if youre like, Hm, but what about basic respect? ask yourself if youve shown her the same.
  • Dont send pictures of your penis unless she just asked for them.
  • If a woman says no to a date, dont ask her again.
  • If a woman has not given an enthusiastic yes to sex, back the hell off.
  • If a woman is really drunk, she cannot consent to you and she also cannot consent to your buddy who seems to be trying something. Your buddy is your responsibility, so say something and intervene.
  • If you do the right thing, dont expect praise or payment or a pat on the back or even a thank you from that woman. Congratulations, you were baseline decent.
  • Involve women in your creative projects, then let them have equal part in them.
  • Dont make misogynistic jokes.
  • Dont expect women to be nice or cute and dont get upset when they arent those things.
  • Dont make assumptions about a womans intelligence, capabilities or desires based on how she dresses.
  • Pay women as much as you pay men.
  • If a woman tells you that you fucked up, and you feel like shit, dont put it on that woman to make you feel better. Apologize without qualification and then go away.
  • Dont punish women for witnessing your vulnerability.
  • Dont get defensive when you get called out.
  • Dont need to literally witness a man being horrible in order to believe that hes horrible. Trust and believe women.
  • Dont use your power to get womens attention/company/sex/etc.
  • Be aware of your inherent power in situations and use it to protect women, especially via talking to other men.
  • Stop thinking that because youre also marginalized or a survivor that you cannot inflict pain or oppress women.
  • If womens pain makes you feel pain, dont prize your pain above hers, or make that pain her problem.
  • Dont read a list like this and think that most of these dont apply to you.

(These also apply to how to better treat transgender and non-binary people, who are in more danger than cis women).

Read more: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/oct/16/a-simple-list-of-things-men-can-do-to-change-our-work-and-life-culture

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